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Pornography. It’s the dirty secret of mankind, the killer of relationships, and the destroyer of lives. Statistically, more than 50% of (Christian) married men immerse themselves in this vile content. But, whether Christian or not, to deny the negative effects pornography has on one’s life would be naive. It is even proven in scientific studies that porn can: Destroy trust in intimacy between couples Lower your sensitivity to vulgarity Cause a belief that marriage is...

Pornography.

It’s the dirty secret of mankind, the killer of relationships, and the destroyer of lives.

Statistically, more than 50% of (Christian) married men immerse themselves in this vile content. But, whether Christian or not, to deny the negative effects pornography has on one’s life would be naive. It is even proven in scientific studies that porn can:

  • Destroy trust in intimacy between couples
  • Lower your sensitivity to vulgarity
  • Cause a belief that marriage is restraining
  • Create a lack of desire to raise children or be involved with family
  • Distract your from your work, career, dreams, and calling on your life

While there is no specific place in scripture where God says, “Porn is bad,” there are crucial scriptural references from which we can pull an adequate and biblical standpoint on the subject. Scriptures that cover addiction (Corinthians 6:12,) sexual impurity and immorality (Ephesians 4:19,) lust (Matthew 5:28,) etc., are all powerful and relevant references.

Still, marriages are destroyed daily, kids are left fatherless, leadership positions in the house of God are abandoned, and commitments are forgotten … all for what?

Pornography?

Here are three reasons why men (yes, even Christian men), can find themselves enslaved to porn:

1. They have a misunderstanding of love. 

Point blank: God is love.

Pornography provides a false sense of love, where love is demonstrated by passion and desire rather than commitment. A misunderstanding of love can stem from a vast array of life issues (and we all have them). But, when we don’t understand that God is love, we tend to fill that void with things that temporarily make us feel good. When you are living a life without a true understanding of love, you are holding yourself back from complete freedom in the Lord and are willingly opening the doors to resentment in your marriage. You can, however, overcome — not by your own strength, but by gaining knowledge and wisdom on the subject of true love from a biblical standpoint.

2. Their marriage is not satisfying. 

Relationships, especially marriages, take a lot of work. Day in and day out, it takes effort to sustain a godly marriage, which can be quite draining — mentally and physically. Porn offers (Christian) men a ‘solution’ where they:

  • Don’t have to make commitments
  • Aren’t required to express romance
  • Don’t have to sacrifice
  • Aren’t limited to one woman
  • Don’t have to hear “no thanks …”

The often unknown truth about marital intimacy, is that sexual satisfaction takes time (longer in some marriages than others). There needs to be a balance of understanding, grace, and sacrifice that takes place during this time of growth.

3. They don’t understand God’s order. 

A man is driven by his ability to conquer, lead, and protect; we are hardwired with these natural instincts. But these instincts can become distorted, and we can easily forget them if we allow our marriage to get out of order. When your marriage operates out of God’s order, it leaves room for you to turn to addictions that still give you that sense of control. If a man understands and obediently follows God’s order in his Christian marriage, it leaves no room for error in sexual sin. (Note that I said ‘no room for error’ and not ‘no room for temptation.’  Temptation will always be there, but error doesn’t have to be). Ultimately, when you look past all of the distortion that porn addiction brings to a marriage, it all boils down to the fact that the man is changing up God’s intended order. He is putting his own needs before His wife’s needs, and since he is the spiritual leader of his home, impurity is inevitably where he leads his family.

Don’t go down a path you weren’t created for. Man up and lead your marriage to greatness.

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Derek Palizay

I am a follower of Christ, father, husband, entrepreneur, speaker and writer. It is my #1 goal in life to use my gifts and passions to lift others up and help them become the best versions of themselves, so they can accomplish their overall visions and dreams.

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