How many times have you thought about having an accountability partner but never actually pursued it?
We feel you.
Maybe it’s because we dread the thought of it? We wonder, “what will people think of me?” Perhaps, for some of us, it’s just because we don’t seem to have Christian friends with whom we can share life and be vulnerable?
Or, maybe we don’t want the people we know to look down on us?
If any of this is sounding familiar, the good news is you’re not alone.
The truth is, the Bible addresses accountability in ways that surpass our perceptions of it. James 5:16 tells us, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
So having an accountability partner goes beyond having someone or people to whom we can confess our shameful deeds. And this is where most Christians miss it.
Of course, confession is part of it, the Bible is clear about that …
… But there’s more.
Scripture tells us to pray for one another so we may be healed, and that, “the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” You see, with confession comes prayer, but what’s more: healing!
When we confess our sins to God, he forgives us and “purifies us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9). When we confess our sins to a fellow Christian (our accountability partner) and pray with them, we are healed. God honors such prayer. God brings healing through fellowship!
The healing may come immediately, or it may slowly progress, but it will come.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines ‘accountability’ as the “obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions.” When we seek out accountability by being the accountability partner, by being the person to “go first,” we are showing that we are able to accept responsibility for our actions, we accept that we are wrong, when we are.
When we do that, we open up the doors for others to do the same.
It’s easier to walk through seasons when you’re aware that other people are walking consciously with you. There is healing in togetherness. The Bible says that the prayer that comes from such unity is powerful.
It is one of the devil’s tricks to make us believe that we’re all alone in our struggles, and that our struggles are irrelevant and no one would relate to them. But the devil is the father of lies and has always been. (John 8:44).
In 2 Timothy 2:22, the Bible says, “Flee the evil desires of your youths and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” Here, we see that it is God’s desire that we pursue righteous living with other Christians. It is so clear, that this is God’s will for us.
Now whether you are single or married, you were not created to do life alone!
We are not saying you need to be married in order to live in God’s will as it relates to accountability; we are saying that God wants us to share in life with other believers — to pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love and peace along with other Christians. This is God’s will for all believers.
So how can we become the accountability partner? Here are two steps:
- PRAY — The Bible says in Jeremiah 33:3, “Ask me, and I’ll tell you things that you don’t know and can’t find out.” So go ahead, ask God, your Father, to lead you to the right people. Ask him to teach you to become the accountability partner. This prayer pleases Him and He will answer. (1 John 5:14-15).
- GET INVOLVED — Join a ministry at your local church (singles, married couples, single parents, choir, ushering, kids sunday school, women in leadership, etc.). And if there’s a ministry that God has placed in your heart that’s not in your church, start it. If you are still in school, join a Christian organization — or start one.
Accountability brings healing, greater strength in pursuit of purpose, humility, more outpouring of blessings, and a closer relationship with a God who won’t let go.
And remember, to be an accountability partner requires very little to start …
Pray and get involved.
Priscilla Sart is an artist with a purpose. She is also a chemistry graduate from Southeastern Louisiana University, and has been in love with writing since elementary school. Alongside writing, she has a passion for teaching, acting, singing, and fitness modeling, and has performed in related showcases. Her utmost desire is using her gifts in making Jesus known. Priscilla is originally from Delta, Nigeria. Follow her on Instagram @priscasart and read more at purposeandfreedom.org.