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What is stillness? Stillness is defined as the absence of movement or sound. Have you ever heard someone say, “It’s too quiet”? We all know what quiet is… but what exactly is “too quiet”? We’ve become so accustomed to continuous sound and constant movement that seemingly, we’ve become afraid of stillness. Our minds have been subconsciously programmed to assume that things are out of order or that something may be wrong if everything is at...
Faith Williams Faith Williams1 year ago11 min

What is stillness? Stillness is defined as the absence of movement or sound.

Have you ever heard someone say, “It’s too quiet”?

We all know what quiet is… but what exactly is “too quiet”?

We’ve become so accustomed to continuous sound and constant movement that seemingly, we’ve become afraid of stillness. Our minds have been subconsciously programmed to assume that things are out of order or that something may be wrong if everything is at rest.

For so long we’ve been taught to hustle; and not just hustle … to hustle hard. Go hard or go home, right? Often, the hustle leads to exhaustion and even to setting goals our current selves are not able to reach in our current state.

The hustle mentality is generally future-focused. Being overly future-minded can cause us to miss the beauty in the now — to miss fully living in the present and to miss living in concert with organic growth. The journey to the future should not exclude the now. Our present should be our transportation to the future.

Stillness often presents a mirage of being unproductive.

If we aren’t careful to guard our perspective of our single season, we may perceive stillness to be our enemy. In reality, as a single, stillness has the potential to be our greatest ally.

Every nation has an ally they can rely on at any given time to step in during times of war. As singles, we face wars daily — wars against our flesh, our anxiety, and sometimes we even have to defend our worth. What greater friend than stillness to intervene and bring peace?

Stillness provides the opportunity for reflection.

Reflection, when managed appropriately, has the potential to breed healing, wholeness, and to establish healthy personal and relational boundaries.

Stillness is the chance to rebalance yourself, rebalance your identity in Christ, rebalance your relationship with God the Father, and rebalance your physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional health.

Too often in our pursuit of graduating from singleness, we neglect the very thing needed to sustain us in the next season. After all, a healed, whole and well-rounded single will only allow you to be fully prepared to embrace your purpose as it unveils.

Control is relinquished in stillness — control of what should have happened, what should be happening, and what should happen in the future.

We all have lists or life goals we desire to achieve by certain stages or ages like, graduation, or our dream car, marriage, dream career, children, and even retirement. When we don’t reach those milestones according to our timelines, frustration and disappointment can set in.

Stillness reminds the anxious single heart that God is in control and knows what’s best.

Stillness allows our Abba Father to sing over us the lyrics of Travis Greene’s, “Be Still”:

“Be still and know that I am God … just trust and know that I am God, I’m in control I am still God.”

Equally, we have the opportunity to sing back to Him:

“I will be still for you are with me … I will be still, I will be still.”

There’s nothing greater than a song to silence the chatter in your mind, calm the fears of your soul, and bring hope to your uncertain future.

So as a single, we make a commitment to partner with stillness.

We join forces to increase our stamina and endurance for the great journey that lies ahead.

How do we join forces? How can we incorporate embracing stillness in our everyday hustle and bustle? 

  1. Meditation: Commit assigned time(s) during the day to focus on the attributes of God and the things we are most grateful for in relation to His hand at work in our lives.
  2. Create a resting space in your home: Use this space to read, meditate, and journal.
  3. Complete an outside activity: Get some fresh air! Take a walk, workout outdoors, or simply stand outside and take a few deep breaths or enjoy some morning coffee or outside.

Stillness embraced while single will only help us in the seasons to come.

Patience is the sister of stillness. James 1:4: “But let patience have its perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.”

Imagine that! If we allow stillness and patience to be perfected in us, we’ll be made whole and want for nothing, which is equivalent to the absence of lack. So often as singles, we feel as if we are incomplete and always without (or, lacking). The concept of relationships being 50/50 has been drilled into us and subconsciously fed to us in everything we watch and hear through media.

Oh, what joy to be reassured that wholeness and abundance are within reach by simply adopting stillness. With this in mind, let us recommit — in this very moment — to open the door to stillness. And not just open the door, but to be a great host.

Stillness, we welcome you with arms open wide. Wash over us, washing every ounce of guilt, condemnation, worry, fear, and anxiety concerning our relationship status. (Stillness, while a gift itself, also gives the gift of proper preparation.)

Stillness, embraced during our single season, ensures we have done our part to be prepared for when the season changes.

Declare: I will be still, and know that HE is God. 

Faith Williams

Faith Williams

Faith is a Florida native, born in Miami. She is the third of four children. Faith is an aspiring author, motivational speaker, and entrepreneur. Her life’s mission is to see men and women walk in complete healing and wholeness from past trauma. In her spare time, Faith enjoys spending time with family, bowling, and serving her community. Follow her on IG: @avaylablevessel