When I was single, I was waiting and praying for a great husband to have an amazing marriage. However, in my time of waiting, I learned to be deliberate about resting in God and celebrating my singleness. Believe me, this wasn’t an easy journey, but with God, it turned out to be a wonderful process that enabled me to have a great marriage. Here are 3 good tips that I learned that will help you enjoy your singleness and not just tolerate it:
- Just Say No To The Pity Parties. We are all human and sometimes waiting can cause worry, self-pity, and anxiousness. I literally had to tell myself not to be anxious for marriage to keep from making wrong choices out of desperation. My favorite meditation in those moments became Philippians 4:6-8. As I meditated these scriptures, my mind, heart, and spirit began to shape my worries into prayers. As I keep God at the center of my life, I had more peace about my singleness, knowing that my husband would present himself in God’s timing.
- Don’t Miss out on Opportunities. As I prepared myself for marriage, I learned to do things that I could appreciate as a single woman. Remember, you won’t be single forever so maximize your season to experience God’s goodness (Psalm 27:13). Here are some things I did to be productive and maximize my opportunities before marriage:
- Enhance your relationship with God (read the Word, prayer).
- Join a singles ministry.
- Go on a missions trip.
- Take self-development classes.
- Travel to experience new things and expand your worldview.
- Learn from Married People. Because I wanted to have a successful marriage, I surrounded myself with successfully married role models (Proverbs 11:14). I learned a lot by listening to their stories of how they kept their marriage going to gain secrets to a happy, godly marriage. Even after being married for almost 10 years, I still reach out to those same couples for marital advice. Are there any married couples that you can reach out to?
Can you add anything to the list? How has your journey of singleness and waiting on God been? Please share your thoughts below.