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Have you ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that you knew you should not have been in? All the signs in the relationship point to a dead end, but for some reason you just can’t work up the courage to get out of the relationship. It is extremely vital that you get out! Run for your life and your future! Breaking up is probably one of the hardest things in life to do. Often,...
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Have you ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that you knew you should not have been in? All the signs in the relationship point to a dead end, but for some reason you just can’t work up the courage to get out of the relationship. It is extremely vital that you get out! Run for your life and your future!

Breaking up is probably one of the hardest things in life to do. Often, breaking up can be extremely difficult; you may genuinely care or love the individual that you are not supposed to be with.

Whenever this is the case, the break up will be prolonged until the very last straw. We can be so concerned about hurting the other person’s feelings that we actually ignore our own emotional damage and feelings.

It is not just love that keeps us from breaking up. If we are being honest, sometimes it is the fear of being alone that will keep us bound. If I do break up with this person, will I ever find the right one? The more you entertain this type of thought, the higher your chances are of being bound in a relationship.

You will find yourself waiting until the other person finally leaves you. When God told the Israelites to leave Egypt, I am sure that they were a little fearful of being alone. However, if they never left Egypt they would have never embraced the promise land.

Your break up is just as important as your future spouse. Think about it: Most people get stuck thinking, does God really have somebody for me? Will I ever be happy? Will I ever get married?

Well, allow us to encourage you; if you don’t break up with the person you know you’re not supposed to be with, how will you ever find or be with the person you are supposed to be with?

Keep looking at the story of the Israelites in Egypt, bound to slavery. God raises up Moses as a deliverer. Moses tells Pharaoh to let his people go. He is literally telling Pharaoh: “They are breaking up with you.” If they had never broken up with Egypt, they could have never entered the promise land. The break up always comes before the promise.

In order to gain the courage to actually break up with a person, you must pay attention to the promise! Don’t allow yourself to be stuck in bondage any longer! Focus on God’s promise for your life. The more you focus on His promise and the future he has in store for you, the easier it is to let go of your past and embrace your future.

You can also gain the courage to break up by placing more value on yourself than you do the other person. Far too often we put more emphasis on the other person and their feelings. We devalue ourselves and God’s plan and purpose for our lives!

Begin to care more about yourself than you do your boyfriend or girlfriend! Sounds kind of harsh and selfish right? Well, it is. You must understand you are NOT married yet. Stop treating your boyfriend or girlfriend like a husband or a wife.

Learn how to break up before you end up marrying somebody you are not supposed to marry. I am convinced that if me or my ex wife understood the importance of the break up, we may not have ever taken each other to the altar.

Breaking up while in a marriage is always much more costly! Take it from me. If you know you are not supposed to be with that person, do both of yourselves a favor and break up, so that you can embrace the future God has for you!

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Jose Rodriguez

For over 10 years Jose has had a passion to rescue urban youth. With a Bachelors Degree in Youth Ministry from Oral Roberts University and a testimony of God rescuing him out of gangs, drugs, and poverty; he has both life experience and an education to help him empower others to Rescue a Generation of Urban Youth. Jose is a full time urban missionary and currently serves as the Student Ministries Pastor at his church, Kingdom Culture Worship Centre in San Bernardino, CA. Jose provides training on behalf of Urban Youth Workers Institute (UYWI) and speaks nation wide to youth and young adults in a variety of venues.