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The journey to wholeness is not for the faint of heart! Just as the great poet Langston Hughes penned, let me tell you, “Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair…” BUT, I never would’ve gone as far to say it had all those issues of tacks, splinters, and such going on. I knew my life wasn’t perfect or easy, but in my eyes, it was far from being labeled “hard knock.” Needless to say,...
LaChandra Cook LaChandra Cook4 months ago8 min

The journey to wholeness is not for the faint of heart!

Just as the great poet Langston Hughes penned, let me tell you, “Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair…” BUT, I never would’ve gone as far to say it had all those issues of tacks, splinters, and such going on. I knew my life wasn’t perfect or easy, but in my eyes, it was far from being labeled “hard knock.”

Needless to say, as I began to do life with God, I quickly found myself saying, “You don’t know how seriously broken you are until you begin to heal properly.”

The journey to wholeness is healing and pain, beauty and ugliness, all wrapped in one. It causes us to face some hard truths about ourselves (and life in general), uncover some hidden skeletons, admit some shameful facts, and let’s not even get started on emotional rollercoasters!

But, in the end — it’s all worth it!

Here is the truth about wholeness: You’ll never experience it until you properly embrace the fact that you are indeed broken.

What does being broken look like?

1. It’s acknowledging that you deal with rejection, abandonment, low self-esteem, pride, shame, guilt, or whatever your underlying issue may be. The key is to willingly be open and vulnerable enough that it may be revealed why you do (or think) the things you do.  Inner healing is a necessity for transformation!

2. It then means admitting that you have some proclivities that if you aren’t careful can be harmful and lead you to error. We can also call these weaknesses and limitations. The truth is, some things about you that won’t change or go away. You will have to learn how to let God be God even in your weaknesses. The mistake many make while on this journey is getting stuck on the fact that there are imperfections, weaknesses, and limitations. It may seem the more you dig, the more revelations continue to come forth — and that can make one feel defeated.

It’s challenging to get over some of the pain you’ve encountered. And it’s even more challenging to begin to see the way you are naturally wired, how that can actually be the reason you’ve encountered some of those issues.

I’m reminded of these popular scriptures:

“but He has said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you [My lovingkindness and My mercy are more than enough—always available—regardless of the situation]; for [My] power is being perfected [and is completed and shows itself most effectively] in [your] weakness.’ Therefore, I will all the more gladly boast in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ [may completely enfold me and] may dwell in me.'” 2 Corinthians 12:9 AMP

“And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.” Romans 8:28 AMP

Wholeness is not a result of everything being perfect, but it is coming to the working knowledge that all that you are and all that you have or will face is actually being used for your good and God’s glory.

It’s coming to the point that we no longer run and hide in fear like Adam and Eve, but rather know that we can stand in the presence of God completely bare and have no shame. He covers us, and He perfects us, He makes all things well.

So, yes, although the journey to wholeness does involve embracing your brokenness, I dare to believe it speaks more to the fact that you reconnect to the one that completes you! And that, my friend, is the true goal in journeying toward wholeness. 

LaChandra Cook

LaChandra Cook

LaChandra Cook is the author of the book, A" Soul Surrendered: The Unmasking of the Christian Life," and the blog site www.ASoulSurrendered.com. It is her mission to create material that provokes and/or helps others maintain an authentic Christian lifestyle and live a life of being whole and prosperous. Follow along at asoulsurrendered.com and on IG: @lachandracook and @asoulsurrendered