No matter the culture, we have had our share of battles when it comes to “defining” what our position, role, title, and even character should or should not be.
Societal norms have attempted to place labels and limits upon our shoulders. We are defined by whether we are in the home, or minimized in sectors of business, government, and even religion.
Women are often labeled as too emotional, yet a woman is criticized when she “toughens up.” She has been labeled as ‘fast’ and always seeking attention, but has been viewed and treated by society as a mere sex object.
She has been placed in predicaments that seemingly leave her with no choice but to play dual roles of mother and father, and situations where she has had to question what the boundaries of selflessness are when it comes to her personal dreams, goals, and needs.
There are a plethora of issues that we can bring to the forefront, but the gist of it all is that the unique makeup of what a woman is has often been mishandled and inaccurately defined.
What is a woman?
A woman, in her rawest form (aside from all the titles and stereotypes), is simply the embodiment of the female attributes of God (Genesis 1:27).
The composition of who she is will cause her to develop and grow that which she is connected to — she’s a nurturer and cultivator. She is graced to provide love and understanding affectionately, and she is well equipped to be a listening ear — she’s a confidant and a counselor. She uniquely exudes strength and resilience — she is a lioness!
Here is what needs to be made known: This makeup of a woman is necessary and does not have to be altered to fit a specific category or position. True womanhood is allowing all of this to be at work, unapologetically, no matter the circumstance. We must walk confidently in who we were created to be.
Let’s chat: woman to woman …
From one woman to another, I need you to know your overall purpose as a “woman,” no matter the context, is significant and a foundational piece to our very existence. You exemplify a side of God’s heart that cannot be overlooked.
Your uniqueness to be tender yet firm, compassionate yet resolute, is needed in every sphere of life, contrary to popular belief. You were created to teach us how to be knowledgeable and expressive of our emotions, yet to make wise decisions. You give us the freedom to voice our truths without feeling shame and guilt. You have a way to build confidence.
Think it not strange that wisdom is personified as a woman and many of its characteristics mirror that of the beloved virtuous woman and that of a wife: She is better than rubies (Proverbs 8:11 and Proverbs 31:10); He who has a wife finds and obtains the favor of the Lord (Proverbs 8:35 and Proverbs 18:22). There are some things in this world that only we as women can do, and God needs us to be secure in who we are designed to be.
Yes, there is much to be birthed through you, woman! Be assured your birthing ability is not limited to children. Just think of the books, schools, inventions, laws, and systems in which you could be mandated to bring forth. You may not be appointed to bring forth these various things, but you could very well find yourself attached to the lineage of the one who will. In a time when women weren’t typically regarded (especially in genealogies), five women found themselves listed in the lineage of Jesus. Much like Tamar, Rahab, Ruth, Uriah’s Wife (Bathsheba), and Mary, your story may not be pretty, filled with struggles, and uncertainty. However, God thinks you are worthy enough to be a part of His story.
You may not be called to fast and pray day and night in the synagogue like Prophetess Anna, but you may be called to judge and lead the people to war like Prophetess Deborah. No matter the call, take your rightful place and know that as a woman, your makeup (inner and external) does not weaken your ability to be used by God to showcase His character and glory!
Much like Esther, there are nations and whole people groups waiting for your arrival, that they might experience deliverance. (Esther 4:14)
The truth is, your strength does not have to be a replica of man’s power to get the victory! Sis, put down Saul’s armor and find your weapon like Jael — and begin to slay the enemy.
Take pride in your femininity. Fight like a girl, do it pretty, and never apologize or feel pressured to alter the way you are wired to hold a position or title. Don’t allow society to cause you to lose touch with your uniqueness as a WOMAN. WE NEED YOU. We need to walk in our God-given identity and role — the one He designed from the beginning.
LaChandra Cook is the author of the book, A" Soul Surrendered: The Unmasking of the Christian Life," and the blog site www.ASoulSurrendered.com. It is her mission to create material that provokes and/or helps others maintain an authentic Christian lifestyle and live a life of being whole and prosperous. Follow along at asoulsurrendered.com and on IG: @lachandracook and @asoulsurrendered